The Good Formula

From: ******@msn.com>
To: crjames100@gmail.com
Sent: Sunday, February 11, 2007 4:45:13 AM
Subject: Re: help

Thanks for the reply.

Last night I was out with the girl I like again. And I have got some more information that maybe of use to you.

We were talking alone, and as we didn't end on very good terms, we have decided to start our friendship again and forget all the bad things that happened. I also explained to her, why I was nervous around her when we dated, and she replied by saying that she didn't know I was being nervous and really enjoyed being with me.

She also said, that she thinks I am a nice guy, have a good personality and I am gorgeous (her words), and she doesn't know why she isn’t attracted to me. But she also, told me that when she first met me, she really really liked me, but said when she gets over someone, she gets over them!

There must be something I can do to trigger the attraction again?

I don't think that this girl is "the one" but I think we could have

something really amazing.

Thanks

{D}

CR Replies:

(original response modified)

I don't think it's ever a good idea to tell the girl you are nervous. I believe that being honest and respectful works in your favor… to some degree…

The act of ‘revealing your insecurities’ may successfully let her know that you are an honest guy with feelings, but it does not increase your desirability (in most cases)…

Many guys believe they can "increase desirability" by appearing vulnerable, hoping to appeal to her sense of understanding.

It doesn’t work.

I strongly believe that at this point you need t to give her some space.

…at least a week.

…or at least go a certain period of time without showing her that you're interested in her...

Some guys feel like this is ‘being fake’, but in reality it allows you to gain the skill of being in control of your emotions...

If you achieve this, you will automatically project:

• The signal of strength
• The signal of self-control

Symbols of "self-control and discipline" are soldiers, leaders and great achievers...

Symbols of "NO self-control and NO discipline" are perverts, drug addicts and losers...

That's why it wouldn't be effective to confess to woman -- in the tone of honesty -- that you are a crackhead (for example).... or confessing that you are a pervert....

Over the long run, it's best to understand, that females desire guys who are secure, confident and in control of their emotions.

So when I say let some time go by, I say that because you could be at the "critical point" - this is where nothing you say matters.

Once you have let some time has gone by, you’ll have the PERFECT OPPORTUNITY to show her that you are a guy with sexual value...

“Timing is the key to achieving anything in the universe!”

So you must let some time go by. And the ‘specific situation’ determines the amount of time.

So it's not a matter of WHAT needs to be done to "trigger attraction" it's a matter of WHEN (timing).

Here’s the Good Formula for making women go wild (without using any advanced tactics).

Good Timing + Feeling Good About Yourself

Let’s put it in perspective…

An example of Bad Timing & Feeling Good About Yourself:

[This doesn’t work.] Approaching an attractive woman after she just found out her grandfather has died, but you are feeling amazing about yourself.

An example of Good Timing & Feeling Bad About Yourself:

[This doesn’t work.] There’s an attractive woman that just asked you for the time. She’s smiling and licking her lips, but you feel so miserable about yourself you just freeze up – which is probably a good thing, because trying to engage in the playfulness of a “new interaction” with her is just going to waste her ‘tender & soft’ time. She’ll quickly ‘sniff out’ your dullness and move on to another guy.

Some guys want to ‘upload massive amounts of seduction knowledge’ into their brains, when really they should hold onto to their money and first work on Feeling Good About Being Themselves.

The guy ‘who knows a lot of skills’ but doesn’t feel good about himself, always ends up creeping women out, which results in him subtly coming off like a ‘stalker’ or a ‘pedophile’.

He always gives off the ‘creepy energy’.

But you can’t deny the fact that the “creepy stalker guy” got skills out the ass!

He knows what maps to buy.
He can tell you where to buy the best pair of binoculars.
He can climb trees.
He can secretly follow behind her car without letting other cars get in between.

But, he does not feel good about himself.

And any guy who doesn’t good about himself, is not seeing VALUE in himself – which leads to irrationally placing too much VALUE on the ‘woman’ or the ‘situation’ (i.e. getting back with her, approaching a new girl, initiating sex with his wife, etc.).

Warmly
The Miserable CR James

SuperHappySex.com